I'm not sure about my friends or people around me, but as far as I can remember, I was always about the money. To be more precise, I'm a materialistic and money is my main objective in life. One could say it is poilitically incorrect, but money is prevalent in almost everything in all aspects, including a relationship. Being brought up in a metropolitian city of Kuala Lumpur (KL), the society evaluates a person's status by the value of your assets. From primary school I was surrounded by poiliticians, the group of people where they could obscenely drive around with Ferraris, wearing Gucci Prada bla bla bla and so on. While I didn't understand much of all this materialism, I was subconsciously influenced by all these people. Even in Australia, again I was surrounded by the rich and powerful furthermore cementing my love of materialism, money and power.
I have to say that my parents are of middle class. My family lived comfortably and could afford luxury items now and then. But for me it wasn't enough. I remember constantly bugging my dad for the latest handphone, laptops, shoes, clothings and even car. Looking back, I thank god that my parents weren't obscenely rich as I would be truly and thoroughly a spoilt brat by now. Even then, my parents gave me anything to their financial capability. I then demand more and more and more as there is never an end to material posessions. I remember the first major thing I got was my Nokia 8250. I was so obsessed by it that I saved my own money somehow and paid RM 850 for it. Since my dad was against me getting a new phone, I kept it out of sight from my dad for a good few months before realizing since when my son's phone is goldish in color? It didn't end just there, I got many other stuff especially when my sisters were in the US and I was back in Malaysia. I can imagine how much my sisters dread to come back as I would give them a long list of items to buy and bring back ranging from hard drives to sunglasses. Being my lovely sisters, I would always say that I would pay them back but in the end they always give it to me ehehehehehe! As time goes on the more I got what I wanted, but I realized one thing; the happiness of getting that handphone or the sunglasses is only shortlived. Hell, I know use a lousier phone right now compared to 3 or 4 years ago. Thinking back, it was a good thing after all that my beloved family gave me everything I wanted, as I now realize that these material posession are just that, materials. I still have my occasional wants like a HDTV now but I'm not as desperate as how I bought my Nokia 8250 last time. I realized in life there's just more to material posessions.
In a capatalist economy we're caught up with the rat race of earning money, isolating people in the process. It comes to a point where everyone is backstabbing each other in order to get ahead. In a way I like the idea of communism, and no I'm not some radical Russian or Chinese communists. It's just that the idea of doing something for the community is appealing. Instead of focusing upon yourself, the economy focuses upon the community as a whole and also helping people along the way.
Before I could understand this complicated idealogy, my dad used to tell me that the most self satisfactory thing is to help other people. This means that you really help people because you are concern for the person, not because you're expecting back a favor. I used to think that my dad is crazy saying that, but as I grow older, his statement makes more sense now.
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Friday, January 25, 2008
Getting into the exercise mode.....again!
On Wednesday, I finally started to do some weight liftings for the sake of getting fit. When you're family gasps in horror saying how fat you are, there is some psychological damage that has been inflicted upon me. In my attempt to recover from it, I then tried working out.
As it has been almost 2 years since I last lifted weights, I woke up with severely sore biceps, triceps and pecks muscles. This is even after I'd force-fed myself with heaps of protein shake. Haih, me and my other friend who we both are sworn together to work out every Monday, Wednesday and Friday also complained of sore muscles. As it is Friday, we shall subject ourselves to torture and pain again. This time would be on my shoulders, back and abs.
Besides that, I should be having a strict low to no-fat diet soon. Gulping down four double cheeseburgers courtesy of FatDonalds is not helping me losing weight. I guess one of these days I would do a post on how to work out and eat out properly so that aspiring people who are reading would have an idea of where and how to start. That post would also serve as a reminder for me to keep to my schedule. Ok, till then, wish me luck and love you all!
As it has been almost 2 years since I last lifted weights, I woke up with severely sore biceps, triceps and pecks muscles. This is even after I'd force-fed myself with heaps of protein shake. Haih, me and my other friend who we both are sworn together to work out every Monday, Wednesday and Friday also complained of sore muscles. As it is Friday, we shall subject ourselves to torture and pain again. This time would be on my shoulders, back and abs.
Besides that, I should be having a strict low to no-fat diet soon. Gulping down four double cheeseburgers courtesy of FatDonalds is not helping me losing weight. I guess one of these days I would do a post on how to work out and eat out properly so that aspiring people who are reading would have an idea of where and how to start. That post would also serve as a reminder for me to keep to my schedule. Ok, till then, wish me luck and love you all!
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Hypocrisy
With all the experiences and obervations gathered in regards of people's behavior, I realize one thing that is common in all of us; we all are fucking hypocrites. That's right people, and you all can go condemn me and all this shit but if you do so, then you're a hypocrite. Get it hypocrites? See that made me a hypocrite since I'm calling you a hypocrite. Ok, I shall stop confusing you poor people.
Before I delve further upon this issue, the definition of hypocrisy is the act of condemning another person, where the stated basis for the criticism is the breach of a rule which also applies to the critic and of which the critic is in breach to a similar or greater extent. The thing is that we all love to impose our own judgement upon other people, whether it is expressed or not. I love it when people come telling me all about their glorious moral principles in life bla bla bla and then a few months down the road, went against their principles. People are always trying to say how bad it is to steal or to cheat but you know what? No matter how noble you supposedly are, there will come a time in which in the same situation we'll may do the same thing or even worse.
This is why I never have principles in life and all those bullshit. I used to have one, and that I would do to others what I want others to do to me. Haha, I think I failed miserably in that. I also try my best not to condemn other people, which for you people know me very well is an impossible task to do. Bitching is like my life man, this is why I can get along well with girls, cause I'm such a bitch ahaha.
However, my golden bitching days are now behind me, or at least I try hard to. A few years ago I am the epitome of hypocrisy, saying that how could this person A do this and person B be such a bitch bla bla bla. Then the tables has been turned, and I'm the one who is being judged and at the receiving end of the bitching. This is where I learnt my lesson and that in life, there's no defining wrong or right. Robbing is a crime, but what if you learnt that the robber is stealing food for his kid who has not eaten for days? You can condemn a person who has cheated in a relationship, but maybe he has his side of story to tell as well. I used to pass judgements ever so often and at most times the situation is much different than I thought. It's not to say that I would never pass judgements upon anyone, just that I'll try my best to be neutral and not come into conclusions quickly before knowing what's really going on. And believe me, it's not that easy.
Before I delve further upon this issue, the definition of hypocrisy is the act of condemning another person, where the stated basis for the criticism is the breach of a rule which also applies to the critic and of which the critic is in breach to a similar or greater extent. The thing is that we all love to impose our own judgement upon other people, whether it is expressed or not. I love it when people come telling me all about their glorious moral principles in life bla bla bla and then a few months down the road, went against their principles. People are always trying to say how bad it is to steal or to cheat but you know what? No matter how noble you supposedly are, there will come a time in which in the same situation we'll may do the same thing or even worse.
This is why I never have principles in life and all those bullshit. I used to have one, and that I would do to others what I want others to do to me. Haha, I think I failed miserably in that. I also try my best not to condemn other people, which for you people know me very well is an impossible task to do. Bitching is like my life man, this is why I can get along well with girls, cause I'm such a bitch ahaha.
However, my golden bitching days are now behind me, or at least I try hard to. A few years ago I am the epitome of hypocrisy, saying that how could this person A do this and person B be such a bitch bla bla bla. Then the tables has been turned, and I'm the one who is being judged and at the receiving end of the bitching. This is where I learnt my lesson and that in life, there's no defining wrong or right. Robbing is a crime, but what if you learnt that the robber is stealing food for his kid who has not eaten for days? You can condemn a person who has cheated in a relationship, but maybe he has his side of story to tell as well. I used to pass judgements ever so often and at most times the situation is much different than I thought. It's not to say that I would never pass judgements upon anyone, just that I'll try my best to be neutral and not come into conclusions quickly before knowing what's really going on. And believe me, it's not that easy.
Sunday, January 20, 2008
Ultra Broke
Finally my car come back from the work shop. Right now my car should be almost as good as new and at the same time I'm ultra broke. Granted most of these parts are wear and tear, but still the maintenance of a car is seriously ultra expensive. Here are the breakdown of the items that I'd done on the car so far in chronological order;
New pair of front rotors and brake pads = $100
New Battery = $60
New set of tires = $265
New inner tie rods = $40
New pair of front shocks = $140
New spark plugs = $15
Labor costs = $270
So in total I've spent almost a thousand dollars on the car. Well it would be over a thousand dollars if you include the maintenance and miscellaneous items that has been done on the car. Sigh, oh I forgot, I would be doing alignment tomorrow that would cost be at least $70. Sigh, labor costs here are so freaking expensive.
Saturday, January 19, 2008
Sicko
No I'm not a sicko person or something but rather it's a movie made by Michael Moore. For those people who aren't familiar to that name, Michael Moore is the same director who made Fahrenheit 9/11, a controversial film about the conspiracies leading to the 9/11 incident. I love Michael Moore's way of insulting something. He makes it so sacarstic in such a cynical way; he's just so cynically sacarstic.
About the movie Sicko, it talks about the medical care facilities that is available in the US. Being the 'best' country in the world, one could safely assume that the US has the best medical care facilities in the world, not to mention the biggest, the most, the fattest etc etc. What they did not mention that medical care costs is the most expensive in the world as well. As noted a simple asthma pump would cost you a freaking 120 USD.
Michael Moore proceeds to travel to european countries, where he realize that the medical facilities that is provided in the UK and France are virtually free. Of course those medical facilities is paid via your taxes, but since when you don't need to pay tax in the US? Hell, even the British hospitals provide reimbursements for tranportation to and from the hospital! In France, they have house doctors that actually come to your house in case of any medical emergencies. How freaking good is that? In US, they charge you literally by the meter for the nurse to walk to guide you through the hospital. Ok I am exaggerating here, but I think many people would agree to the fact that Americans are seriously being ripped off.
When I first came to US, I love bashing how stupid Americans can be. I then realize that they're not stupid but rather they're ignorant. Almost two years living in America I realize further that they are ignorant because the government created a system that subconsciously make them into ignorant robots. I used to despise them and say they're bloody redneck racists. Now instead I pity the Americans. Somehow rather the situation in US is almost the same in Malaysia. We are being propagandized into believing that our world is a perfect, harmonious place. We have a close-minded thinking that we're so perfect and what not, till we fail to even rationalize something which is so obvious. And governments purposely do that so that we won't 'wake' from our zombic state and realize 'Hei, our country is pretty fucked up, we should do something about it.' This is why I never read Malaysian newspapers that are nothing but about Barisan National being the best when actually they're so corrupted. I used to think that only happens in my native country, but I realize even in the US it is the same thing, just that the Americans are more discreet and use distraction tactics.
I guess what I'm trying to say here is that we should be able to rationalize and analyze 'reputable' information given to us. Perhaps being a leftie makes me biased towards leftie people like Michael Moore, whom when seen on television looks like a hippie from the 70s. However, I really recommend Americans and people who live in America, especially my sisters to watch the movie and see what you think. Now somehow I wish that I continued studying in Australia and obtain a PR there. Yes, you all may now shoot me for not staying back in Australia instead.
Names
Erm, I received quite a few names for my nameless soft toys. Erm hahaha some of them were quite funny in my opinion. But here are all the names I got so far
Mushrooom (??!!)
Cheezo
Bruzzie
Fluffy Bunny (erm it's a bear or a dog, not a rabbit)
Sir Edward Scissor Claws (Wah, my bear is not a murderer)
Lady Serena Blair Woodsen (Haha a tribute to Gossip Girl)
So which names I chosed? Well, I decided to name my doggie Bruzzie Dan Ferrio. Yes I added the last two names and I felt it was quite appropriate for the dog. As for the teddy bear, I wanted her name to be more sophisticated but didn't know where to get it. As I was watching Gossip Girl I decided to combine the two main character's name and come out with Ms. Serena Blair Woodsen. I decided to leave out the Lady part cause it sounded too old. So anywayz, thanks for everyone helping me out. Hehehe love ya all.
Mushrooom (??!!)
Cheezo
Bruzzie
Fluffy Bunny (erm it's a bear or a dog, not a rabbit)
Sir Edward Scissor Claws (Wah, my bear is not a murderer)
Lady Serena Blair Woodsen (Haha a tribute to Gossip Girl)
So which names I chosed? Well, I decided to name my doggie Bruzzie Dan Ferrio. Yes I added the last two names and I felt it was quite appropriate for the dog. As for the teddy bear, I wanted her name to be more sophisticated but didn't know where to get it. As I was watching Gossip Girl I decided to combine the two main character's name and come out with Ms. Serena Blair Woodsen. I decided to leave out the Lady part cause it sounded too old. So anywayz, thanks for everyone helping me out. Hehehe love ya all.
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Puhlease name me.....
After that long ass post of pornography, I've decided to create a short post with pictures. I have three soft toys at the moment and currently two of them are not named. I didn't know you have to name them until one of my friends (who is a gal) says that I should give them a name cause it's so poor thing. Actually my eldest sister whom actually gave me all the three soft toys also ask me to name them. Anywayz, this is the first one 
This is a Herrington Teddy Bear Cheesecake Factory Limited Edition teddy bear. Yes I know it's a freaking long name and yes it has my glasses. All my soft toys love posing with my glasses or sunnies, like the owner :P. Anywayz, I think this bear is kinda expensive as it comes with all the certificate of authenticity and so on. Wondering of selling it on ebay one day for a million dollars hahaha! Just don't tell the teddy bear, he might fuss. 
Teddy bear out of the bag. 
This is the only one who is named, and that is Roxy. This dog has been with me for about 5 years now I think. In case you guys don't know it's a Hush Puppy dog. Actually I prefer him to wear the glasses cause without it, he has this sad pitiful look, as though asking anyone to take him away from the abusive owner. Fortunately for the dog, I left him in Malaysia and now owns my room.
You can see how long ago this picture was taken. I was still using that ancient Nokia phone when I was studying in Australia.
This is my doggie dog, and it's a Marks & Spencer doggie. If you want to compare the ages of my three soft toys, this doggie is the oldest them all. This used to be my sister's dog when she was still studying in UK. Come to think of it, I think it's around 10 years old already. She gave it to me while I was in California cause I kinda like it. 
This is my sister's pooh bear all blinged up. Not mine but just that the bear is such a poser wearing my ipod and sunnies while holding my dad's car keys on it's right hand. Wahahaha
So please people, help me name my doggie dog and the Cheesecake teddy bear. Give me as many suggestions as you can. Thank you very much and love you all.
This is a Herrington Teddy Bear Cheesecake Factory Limited Edition teddy bear. Yes I know it's a freaking long name and yes it has my glasses. All my soft toys love posing with my glasses or sunnies, like the owner :P. Anywayz, I think this bear is kinda expensive as it comes with all the certificate of authenticity and so on. Wondering of selling it on ebay one day for a million dollars hahaha! Just don't tell the teddy bear, he might fuss.
Teddy bear out of the bag. This is the only one who is named, and that is Roxy. This dog has been with me for about 5 years now I think. In case you guys don't know it's a Hush Puppy dog. Actually I prefer him to wear the glasses cause without it, he has this sad pitiful look, as though asking anyone to take him away from the abusive owner. Fortunately for the dog, I left him in Malaysia and now owns my room.
You can see how long ago this picture was taken. I was still using that ancient Nokia phone when I was studying in Australia.
This is my doggie dog, and it's a Marks & Spencer doggie. If you want to compare the ages of my three soft toys, this doggie is the oldest them all. This used to be my sister's dog when she was still studying in UK. Come to think of it, I think it's around 10 years old already. She gave it to me while I was in California cause I kinda like it.
This is my sister's pooh bear all blinged up. Not mine but just that the bear is such a poser wearing my ipod and sunnies while holding my dad's car keys on it's right hand. Wahahaha
So please people, help me name my doggie dog and the Cheesecake teddy bear. Give me as many suggestions as you can. Thank you very much and love you all.
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
My Last Term's Research Paper
I took women's studies last semester as part of my general studies. As usual I did last minute work and I have to do a 10 page research paper on anything related to women's studies. I was surprised that i got 490/500 for this paper as I completed this paper within 3 days. I don't expect anyone to read the whole thing though, but if you do, please feel free to comment and tell me what you think about it. So take a deep breath and hope you would like it.
Pornography censorship; why it should not be censored
Perhaps censorship and pornography are the two most controversial topics in their own ways. Pornography has been around ever since the early days of human existence. Perhaps the most famous documented pornography would have to come from Karma Sutra. Originated from India, Karma Sutra is a manual of sexual experience addressing not only the practicalities of sexuality, but also the courtesies, manner of living and how to successfully relate with a sexual partner in a deeply meaningful manner. Before delving into the topic further, one would ask what pornography is. The word pornography derives from the Greek description of prostitutes. However, the original meaning of the term is irrelevant to its current meaning, as pornography has pretty much evolved since then. The definition of pornography would be any material that is used to create sexual arousal and excitement. Pornography can be in many forms and genres. Pornography can be found in books, videos, telephone-sex, internet, radio and cable television. Then there is the type of pornography that might suit one’s taste. These include but not limited to oral, anal, bi-sexual, lesbian, gay and straight porn. The most common form of pornography would be video pornography.
Censorship on the other hand is the removal of information from the public by a controlling group or body. Typically censorship is done by the government, media or religious groups, although other types of censorship exists. Censorship has been around since the start of human civilizations. In ancient societies such as Israel or China, censorship was considered as a legitimate instrument for regulating the country as a whole. The first censorship law was introduced in 300AD. The word ‘censor’ can be traced back to the office of censor in Rome in 443BC. To the Greek communities, good governance means shaping the character of the people. Hence censorship is used to block out information the Roman government thinks that might affect the development of the ideal character of the people. Even until recent times, the USSR was responsible for the longest lasting and most extensive censorship of the 20th century. Up till today, North Korea practices strict censorship and their citizens are banned from using the internet or to watch the television. Perhaps censorship was a feasible thing to do in the early days of civilization as normal citizens are not as educated and aware of things in general. However in the information age, censorship is not an easy thing to do. Information is easily available on the internet, making it accessible to almost anyone who could operate a computer and impossible to censor information. This includes pornography as well. In my opinion, pornography should not be censored but instead pornography should be regulated.
It is easy to blame pornography for its role of sexual harassment, molestation charges, rape and many other sexual offences. There is no denial that pornography may result in someone to commit a sexual offence. However, when we sit down in our living room and switch on the television, the things we hear and watch from the television plays a bigger role in influencing the people. In the movie Dreamworlds II by Sut Jhally, it talks about how images that it shown on television, especially MTV depicts images that are awfully similar to pornographic scenes. MTV is created in 1981 to broadcast music videos and provide music companies a place to advertise their music. Since then, they have become so popular it has become a household channel for viewers. Dreamworlds II elaborates further how MTV portrays women in only one aspect, that women are ravenous creatures that only desire sex. Degradation of women is done via objectification, where only certain body parts of a women body is shown. Typically body parts that are often subject to objectification are women’s legs, buttocks and busts. The majority of the music videos shown on MTV often have this elements present; lots of scantily clad women acting and posing suggestively. Ultimately, viewers watching those images give them an inaccurate implication of the women’s character. Television is not only responsible for it is one aspect view of women, but is also responsible for violent scenes and also depictions of drug abuse. While pornography is meant for adults only, television is catered to the mass audience across all ages. In an American household, the television is an integral part of spending quality time with the family, spending an average of four hours a day. The most time a person would watch pornography would be an hour a day. This means the amount of television exposure to the amount of pornography is to the ratio of 4:1. If there is any censoring needed, it should be the television, which I believe is largely unregulated compared to the porn industry.
Then there is the issue about sex. It is a social taboo to most people talking about sex. Parents are ashamed to talk to their children about safe sex and that they cover it up by describing it as the birds and the bees. People’s faces cringe and show expressions of disgust if any discussions regarding about sexuality is mentioned openly. Perhaps sex being a taboo began in the middle ages. During that time, priest could marry and have children. However, as the priests died, any land he held went to the widow and because of that, the church began to lose lots of land and money that they felt it belongs to the church. To solve the problem, they passed a law that states a priest could not marry and current priests who were married were to be relieved of their roles in immediate affect. Since then the idea of sex is ‘wrong’ was born. Although America is not a Christian nation, the country is greatly influenced by Christianity and about 80% of Americans are Christians. It is not surprising then that America is largely shy and rather avoid the topic about sexuality. Essentially pornography is glorifying sexual acts in the name of sexual excitement. As though sex is not enough to ignite controversy, pornography would surely ignite more than just controversy, making pornography more than just a taboo. It is a sinful, wrong, inappropriate, leads to rape, molestation, adultery etc.
‘Pornography is used in rape – to plan it, to execute it, to choreograph it, to engender the excitement to commit the act.’ This is a direct quote from Andrea Dworkin, a renowned feminist. The statement above is obvious that Dworkin is against any forms of pornography. It is understandable that she take an extreme dislike to pornography, regards men as ravenous sex crazed creatures and that pornography ignites their appetite to rape. At an early age of nine, she was sexually abused in a cinema. At the age of eighteen, she was arrested for an anti-Vietnam protest, she was sent to prison. Subsequently, she was sexually assaulted by the prison doctors. It was reported that Dworkin bled for fifteen days and a report from another doctor said that had never seen a uterus so bruised and a vagina so ripped. Later in life she married a Dutch political radical, which turn out to be a huge mistake as he abused her repeatedly, often hitting her till she was unconscious. This caused her to leave him and subsequently come back to the US. This marks the beginning of her dedication to feminism, where her work focuses mostly upon the abolishment of porn. In her book Woman Hating, she talks about the Story of O, an erotic novel about a woman who is into female submission. O is always subjected to human torturing and sexual abuse. Often she is being blindfolded, chained, whipped, made to wear a mask and also perform sexual favors like oral, vaginal and anal intercourse. The surprising thing about this story is that O consents to everything that is done to her. The Story of O is an epitome of the woman degradation. The name itself, O, signifies zero, emptiness, soulless. Her worthiness is only defined by the hole between her legs. Her thoughts, her character, her feelings are all non-existent, stripping her of her worthiness as a whole by objectifying her. In one part of the story she is even branded with Sir Stephen’s mark, who owns her. Even worse is that rings with his insignia is inserted into her vagina. The level of degradation in Story of O is extreme and it is no wonder stories like this would enrage women, as the story is very much akin to sexual assault.
Linda Susan Boreman, or better known as Linda Lovelace, is another anti-pornography advocate. Boreman in her early years is nicknamed “Miss Holy Holy” as she kept an arms distance from her dates. It is surprising then that she lost her virginity at 19 and had given birth to a son out-of-wedlock when she was 20 years old. Having strict Catholic parents, she was tricked by her mother to give up her son, saying that she would be able to meet with him again once she is able to take care of him. A year later she moved back to New York, where she had a bad car accident. Subsequently she returns yet again to Florida to recover. While relaxing at the poolside with her girlfriend, a bar owner and part-time pimp Chuck Traynor spotted her and offered both of them a joyride in his Jaguar. Soon Boreman fell in love with Traynor and within weeks she moved in with Traynor. Later both of them moved to New York, eventually gotten married and that’s when her pornography career started. In 1972, she starred in the adult film Deep Throat, arguably the most successful adult film ever in terms of revenue income. Then in 1980, she released her 3rd autobiography book titled Ordeal. In this book she reveals that she was being forced into pornography by her husband Traynor. In her book she talks about how Traynor would abuse her. When she threatened to leave him, he got more aggressive, making her literally a prisoner. Boreman was never out of Traynor’s sight, even when using the toilet Traynor would peep through a hole in the door. Other extreme things include sleeping on top of Boreman at night, tapping into her phone calls and also threatened her at gun point to shoot her if Boreman attempts to disobey his orders. According to Boreman, her bruises on her legs can be seen in Deep Throat.
While admiration is given to people who is outspoken in their beliefs, being too passionate in it might cause one person to be illusional and sidetracked. If anyone were to analyze Andrea Dworkin’s life, many would agree with this statement. While pornography could lead to sexual abuse, Dworkin asserts that pornography promotes many other forms of negative elements including turning women into objects and commodities, women violence and exploitation of children. Other outrageous statements about pornography includes igniting racism by promoting racial degradation as sexy, romanticizing concentration camp, the Nazi and the slaveholder, exploits demeaning racial stereotypes to promote sexual arousal and to ignite racist sexual obsessions.. Pornography also forbids self-determination to women and to children thus annihilating women’s chance for freedom. With so many negative issues linked to pornography, one would wonder the credibility of the connection between certain issues with pornography. She might as well add that pornography promotes terrorism, as it uses elements of violence empowering women, terrorizing them. One can feel that the attack on pornography is more of a personal issue rather than a feminist issue. It is also very hypocritical of her that while she claims pornography induces violence upon women, while she says things like “I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig”. She stereotypes men according to her experiences with men and blames the pornography industry for making men ‘jerks’. The phrase ‘You believe what you choose to believe’ is suited for Dworkin’s stance against pornography. Dworkin took Boreman’s experience and use it as a reason why pornography should be censored and banned. As Boreman’s experience with the porn industry was horrid and traumatizing, Dworkin conveniently assumes that all women in the porn industry are feeling the same as Boreman. Boreman on the other hand, is enjoying the publicity that she is receiving. There are inconsistencies about her claim that she is a victim of pornography. In the first two autobiographies, Inside Linda Lovelace and The Intimate Diary of Linda Lovelace, she talks about pornography and her sexual experience. She talks about her day to day life experience in the porn industry. In her third autobiography Ordeal, the story was told in a different tone, talking about her past sexual abuse and how she was tortured and beaten up by her husband. This was contrary to the first two books that she has written, possibly implying remorse over what she has done. During her teenage years the Vietnam War protests was at its peak. Students march in protest and rebellion has a symbolic meaning. To rebel was a sign of protesting against Vietnam War and a cool thing to do. As with almost every teenager, they rebel against their parents and with the Vietnam War protests in full swing there was never more a perfect time to rebel. Coming from a strict Catholic family where celibacy is important and virginity is sacred, she did the exact opposite by impregnating herself as a sign of rebellion. Things got out of hand when her mother tricked her into giving away her baby, where she eventually ran away with Traynor. From there she was tricked into pornography, thinking she would make a lot of money out of it. In the end, Traynor took all the money and Boreman found herself with nothing. In anger she then divorced Traynor and straight away moved in with her producer and choreographer, David Winters. It is interesting to note that she was able to divorce Traynor when she described how difficult it was to leave Traynor. In my opinion, Boreman regretted going into the porn industry and she can’t escape her past as much as she tried to. She tried starting acting in nightclubs and got hired by Aladdin Casino to play in My Daughter’s Rated X. However the show closed after a week as audiences were disappointed to see that she didn’t get naked. She then turns to Andrea Dworkin for help, and Dworkin took advantage of the situation by making Boreman the feminist poster child for demeaning effects on pornography. Throughout the 80s, she was in demand as a professional witness for anti-obscenity movements. There she acts out like a typical rape victim, looking terrified, traumatized and sobs uncontrollably when recalling her ‘ordeal’. Following her famous outcry about the porn industry, pornographer and writer Hart Williams coined the term ‘Linda Syndrome’ to refer to women who left pornography and attempts to seek acceptance from the ‘overground’ society by disassociating herself and to play victim of the porn industry.
It is people like Andrea Dworkin that undermines the work of porn actress. Indirectly, Dworkin is insulting the women in the porn industry. Women in the porn industry are human beings too. They have feelings; they have the brains and are creative in their own way. By saying pornography objectifies women, degrading female and creativity, it means that porn actresses are nothing more than a sex machine where their intelligence is limited to just sucking, licking, frolicking and fucking. So for those who choose to become a porn actress and are happy to be in the porn industry, Dworkin is implying those women who fall in that category are basically a worthless slut who is nothing more than a shell of their body. Well for Nina Hartley, she graduated magna cum laude in nursing. A lot of college graduates are into the porn industry as well. I guess by Dworkin’s definition, a woman who has a PhD, an artist or/and immensely contented would be worthless overnight if she decides to be in the porn industry. Furthermore, saying how pornography forbids self-determination thus annihilating women’s chance for freedom is an absolute contradiction to the meaning of freedom to choose. If I were a woman, I should have the freedom of venturing into porn. Whatever reason it might be, women should have the freedom of choice, and censoring porn would mean limiting choices for women.
Feminists, whether it is Cellestine Ware, Andrea Dworkin, Linda Boreman, Betty Dodson etc all has brought women to what they are today. One can safely say most of the perception of female inferiority is almost non-existent. Women are allowed to express themselves more openly and with more assertion than ever before. To me pornography itself is just a women’s expression of sexuality. However, like television and internet, pornography is getting more and more corrupted to a point it loses its true meaning. Television is inundated with advertisements that results in over consumerism especially in the United States. The internet is full of spams and e-mail scams are rampant. Pornography is now full of immature porn actresses who want to make a quick buck by subjecting herself to degrading sexual acts. Most of them regret their actions and then blame the porn industry for humiliating them. There are porn actresses like Nina Hartley that loves pornography and lives by it. Pornography is like a career. One has to go into a career that they enjoy working with and does not go against your conscience.
Shall pornography is being censored, more complications would occur, making the situation worse than before. Censoring pornography is not as simple as just getting rid of it. One has to analyze the effect of censoring pornography from a social, economic and political perspective. The law of supply and demand is simple; as long as there is demand, there will always be supply. Censoring pornography would only limit the supply, and people would have other ways of getting pornography if they want to. The issue of pornography is complicated and is not easily solved simply by imposing a censorship on it. A moderate approach must be taken to solve the problem, and that is to regulate, monitor and enforce pornography. To avoid Linda Syndrome, porn actresses must sign a document saying that she is willingly participating in the porn industry and that she is fully aware of the consequences and is personally responsible for all of her own actions. Regulations should be reviewed from time to time, eradicating any loopholes to avoid porn actresses being exploited. Child pornography, which is defined as any pornography with actresses under the age of eighteen is strictly prohibited in any form and that is punishable under the federal law. Proper steps must be taken to ensure history does not repeat itself. The Volstead Act, also called the National Prohibition Act was passed on January 16 1920. Volstead Act prohibits the manufacture, sale or transportation of intoxicating liquor in the United States. The effects of the Volstead Act were largely unanticipated. Legitimate liquor business became illegal overnight, and most of the breweries were taken over by the criminal gangs. Many confrontations took place during the period between 1920 to 1933. Confrontations often result in mass murdering, and the gangs that reach to the top became filthy rich.
Enforcement was difficult to uphold as the gangs were so rich that they bribe the enforcement officers. Those that dare to go against them were murdered instantly. The gangs had such strong influence to the point they control the politicians, either with money or by force. With alcohol gaining social acceptance and the violence and intimidation inflicted by the criminal gangs, public support of the Volstead act started waning. By 1933, public opposition towards the Volstead Act has become overwhelming that the congress decided to lift the act, making alcohol legal again. The lesson learnt from this is simple, censoring would not solve the problem, and the problem is only being swept under the rug. The problem is still there, and eventually someone would have to pick up the rug, dust it thoroughly and get rid of the dust once and for all.
Pornography censorship; why it should not be censored
Perhaps censorship and pornography are the two most controversial topics in their own ways. Pornography has been around ever since the early days of human existence. Perhaps the most famous documented pornography would have to come from Karma Sutra. Originated from India, Karma Sutra is a manual of sexual experience addressing not only the practicalities of sexuality, but also the courtesies, manner of living and how to successfully relate with a sexual partner in a deeply meaningful manner. Before delving into the topic further, one would ask what pornography is. The word pornography derives from the Greek description of prostitutes. However, the original meaning of the term is irrelevant to its current meaning, as pornography has pretty much evolved since then. The definition of pornography would be any material that is used to create sexual arousal and excitement. Pornography can be in many forms and genres. Pornography can be found in books, videos, telephone-sex, internet, radio and cable television. Then there is the type of pornography that might suit one’s taste. These include but not limited to oral, anal, bi-sexual, lesbian, gay and straight porn. The most common form of pornography would be video pornography.
Censorship on the other hand is the removal of information from the public by a controlling group or body. Typically censorship is done by the government, media or religious groups, although other types of censorship exists. Censorship has been around since the start of human civilizations. In ancient societies such as Israel or China, censorship was considered as a legitimate instrument for regulating the country as a whole. The first censorship law was introduced in 300AD. The word ‘censor’ can be traced back to the office of censor in Rome in 443BC. To the Greek communities, good governance means shaping the character of the people. Hence censorship is used to block out information the Roman government thinks that might affect the development of the ideal character of the people. Even until recent times, the USSR was responsible for the longest lasting and most extensive censorship of the 20th century. Up till today, North Korea practices strict censorship and their citizens are banned from using the internet or to watch the television. Perhaps censorship was a feasible thing to do in the early days of civilization as normal citizens are not as educated and aware of things in general. However in the information age, censorship is not an easy thing to do. Information is easily available on the internet, making it accessible to almost anyone who could operate a computer and impossible to censor information. This includes pornography as well. In my opinion, pornography should not be censored but instead pornography should be regulated.
It is easy to blame pornography for its role of sexual harassment, molestation charges, rape and many other sexual offences. There is no denial that pornography may result in someone to commit a sexual offence. However, when we sit down in our living room and switch on the television, the things we hear and watch from the television plays a bigger role in influencing the people. In the movie Dreamworlds II by Sut Jhally, it talks about how images that it shown on television, especially MTV depicts images that are awfully similar to pornographic scenes. MTV is created in 1981 to broadcast music videos and provide music companies a place to advertise their music. Since then, they have become so popular it has become a household channel for viewers. Dreamworlds II elaborates further how MTV portrays women in only one aspect, that women are ravenous creatures that only desire sex. Degradation of women is done via objectification, where only certain body parts of a women body is shown. Typically body parts that are often subject to objectification are women’s legs, buttocks and busts. The majority of the music videos shown on MTV often have this elements present; lots of scantily clad women acting and posing suggestively. Ultimately, viewers watching those images give them an inaccurate implication of the women’s character. Television is not only responsible for it is one aspect view of women, but is also responsible for violent scenes and also depictions of drug abuse. While pornography is meant for adults only, television is catered to the mass audience across all ages. In an American household, the television is an integral part of spending quality time with the family, spending an average of four hours a day. The most time a person would watch pornography would be an hour a day. This means the amount of television exposure to the amount of pornography is to the ratio of 4:1. If there is any censoring needed, it should be the television, which I believe is largely unregulated compared to the porn industry.
Then there is the issue about sex. It is a social taboo to most people talking about sex. Parents are ashamed to talk to their children about safe sex and that they cover it up by describing it as the birds and the bees. People’s faces cringe and show expressions of disgust if any discussions regarding about sexuality is mentioned openly. Perhaps sex being a taboo began in the middle ages. During that time, priest could marry and have children. However, as the priests died, any land he held went to the widow and because of that, the church began to lose lots of land and money that they felt it belongs to the church. To solve the problem, they passed a law that states a priest could not marry and current priests who were married were to be relieved of their roles in immediate affect. Since then the idea of sex is ‘wrong’ was born. Although America is not a Christian nation, the country is greatly influenced by Christianity and about 80% of Americans are Christians. It is not surprising then that America is largely shy and rather avoid the topic about sexuality. Essentially pornography is glorifying sexual acts in the name of sexual excitement. As though sex is not enough to ignite controversy, pornography would surely ignite more than just controversy, making pornography more than just a taboo. It is a sinful, wrong, inappropriate, leads to rape, molestation, adultery etc.
‘Pornography is used in rape – to plan it, to execute it, to choreograph it, to engender the excitement to commit the act.’ This is a direct quote from Andrea Dworkin, a renowned feminist. The statement above is obvious that Dworkin is against any forms of pornography. It is understandable that she take an extreme dislike to pornography, regards men as ravenous sex crazed creatures and that pornography ignites their appetite to rape. At an early age of nine, she was sexually abused in a cinema. At the age of eighteen, she was arrested for an anti-Vietnam protest, she was sent to prison. Subsequently, she was sexually assaulted by the prison doctors. It was reported that Dworkin bled for fifteen days and a report from another doctor said that had never seen a uterus so bruised and a vagina so ripped. Later in life she married a Dutch political radical, which turn out to be a huge mistake as he abused her repeatedly, often hitting her till she was unconscious. This caused her to leave him and subsequently come back to the US. This marks the beginning of her dedication to feminism, where her work focuses mostly upon the abolishment of porn. In her book Woman Hating, she talks about the Story of O, an erotic novel about a woman who is into female submission. O is always subjected to human torturing and sexual abuse. Often she is being blindfolded, chained, whipped, made to wear a mask and also perform sexual favors like oral, vaginal and anal intercourse. The surprising thing about this story is that O consents to everything that is done to her. The Story of O is an epitome of the woman degradation. The name itself, O, signifies zero, emptiness, soulless. Her worthiness is only defined by the hole between her legs. Her thoughts, her character, her feelings are all non-existent, stripping her of her worthiness as a whole by objectifying her. In one part of the story she is even branded with Sir Stephen’s mark, who owns her. Even worse is that rings with his insignia is inserted into her vagina. The level of degradation in Story of O is extreme and it is no wonder stories like this would enrage women, as the story is very much akin to sexual assault.
Linda Susan Boreman, or better known as Linda Lovelace, is another anti-pornography advocate. Boreman in her early years is nicknamed “Miss Holy Holy” as she kept an arms distance from her dates. It is surprising then that she lost her virginity at 19 and had given birth to a son out-of-wedlock when she was 20 years old. Having strict Catholic parents, she was tricked by her mother to give up her son, saying that she would be able to meet with him again once she is able to take care of him. A year later she moved back to New York, where she had a bad car accident. Subsequently she returns yet again to Florida to recover. While relaxing at the poolside with her girlfriend, a bar owner and part-time pimp Chuck Traynor spotted her and offered both of them a joyride in his Jaguar. Soon Boreman fell in love with Traynor and within weeks she moved in with Traynor. Later both of them moved to New York, eventually gotten married and that’s when her pornography career started. In 1972, she starred in the adult film Deep Throat, arguably the most successful adult film ever in terms of revenue income. Then in 1980, she released her 3rd autobiography book titled Ordeal. In this book she reveals that she was being forced into pornography by her husband Traynor. In her book she talks about how Traynor would abuse her. When she threatened to leave him, he got more aggressive, making her literally a prisoner. Boreman was never out of Traynor’s sight, even when using the toilet Traynor would peep through a hole in the door. Other extreme things include sleeping on top of Boreman at night, tapping into her phone calls and also threatened her at gun point to shoot her if Boreman attempts to disobey his orders. According to Boreman, her bruises on her legs can be seen in Deep Throat.
While admiration is given to people who is outspoken in their beliefs, being too passionate in it might cause one person to be illusional and sidetracked. If anyone were to analyze Andrea Dworkin’s life, many would agree with this statement. While pornography could lead to sexual abuse, Dworkin asserts that pornography promotes many other forms of negative elements including turning women into objects and commodities, women violence and exploitation of children. Other outrageous statements about pornography includes igniting racism by promoting racial degradation as sexy, romanticizing concentration camp, the Nazi and the slaveholder, exploits demeaning racial stereotypes to promote sexual arousal and to ignite racist sexual obsessions.. Pornography also forbids self-determination to women and to children thus annihilating women’s chance for freedom. With so many negative issues linked to pornography, one would wonder the credibility of the connection between certain issues with pornography. She might as well add that pornography promotes terrorism, as it uses elements of violence empowering women, terrorizing them. One can feel that the attack on pornography is more of a personal issue rather than a feminist issue. It is also very hypocritical of her that while she claims pornography induces violence upon women, while she says things like “I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig”. She stereotypes men according to her experiences with men and blames the pornography industry for making men ‘jerks’. The phrase ‘You believe what you choose to believe’ is suited for Dworkin’s stance against pornography. Dworkin took Boreman’s experience and use it as a reason why pornography should be censored and banned. As Boreman’s experience with the porn industry was horrid and traumatizing, Dworkin conveniently assumes that all women in the porn industry are feeling the same as Boreman. Boreman on the other hand, is enjoying the publicity that she is receiving. There are inconsistencies about her claim that she is a victim of pornography. In the first two autobiographies, Inside Linda Lovelace and The Intimate Diary of Linda Lovelace, she talks about pornography and her sexual experience. She talks about her day to day life experience in the porn industry. In her third autobiography Ordeal, the story was told in a different tone, talking about her past sexual abuse and how she was tortured and beaten up by her husband. This was contrary to the first two books that she has written, possibly implying remorse over what she has done. During her teenage years the Vietnam War protests was at its peak. Students march in protest and rebellion has a symbolic meaning. To rebel was a sign of protesting against Vietnam War and a cool thing to do. As with almost every teenager, they rebel against their parents and with the Vietnam War protests in full swing there was never more a perfect time to rebel. Coming from a strict Catholic family where celibacy is important and virginity is sacred, she did the exact opposite by impregnating herself as a sign of rebellion. Things got out of hand when her mother tricked her into giving away her baby, where she eventually ran away with Traynor. From there she was tricked into pornography, thinking she would make a lot of money out of it. In the end, Traynor took all the money and Boreman found herself with nothing. In anger she then divorced Traynor and straight away moved in with her producer and choreographer, David Winters. It is interesting to note that she was able to divorce Traynor when she described how difficult it was to leave Traynor. In my opinion, Boreman regretted going into the porn industry and she can’t escape her past as much as she tried to. She tried starting acting in nightclubs and got hired by Aladdin Casino to play in My Daughter’s Rated X. However the show closed after a week as audiences were disappointed to see that she didn’t get naked. She then turns to Andrea Dworkin for help, and Dworkin took advantage of the situation by making Boreman the feminist poster child for demeaning effects on pornography. Throughout the 80s, she was in demand as a professional witness for anti-obscenity movements. There she acts out like a typical rape victim, looking terrified, traumatized and sobs uncontrollably when recalling her ‘ordeal’. Following her famous outcry about the porn industry, pornographer and writer Hart Williams coined the term ‘Linda Syndrome’ to refer to women who left pornography and attempts to seek acceptance from the ‘overground’ society by disassociating herself and to play victim of the porn industry.
It is people like Andrea Dworkin that undermines the work of porn actress. Indirectly, Dworkin is insulting the women in the porn industry. Women in the porn industry are human beings too. They have feelings; they have the brains and are creative in their own way. By saying pornography objectifies women, degrading female and creativity, it means that porn actresses are nothing more than a sex machine where their intelligence is limited to just sucking, licking, frolicking and fucking. So for those who choose to become a porn actress and are happy to be in the porn industry, Dworkin is implying those women who fall in that category are basically a worthless slut who is nothing more than a shell of their body. Well for Nina Hartley, she graduated magna cum laude in nursing. A lot of college graduates are into the porn industry as well. I guess by Dworkin’s definition, a woman who has a PhD, an artist or/and immensely contented would be worthless overnight if she decides to be in the porn industry. Furthermore, saying how pornography forbids self-determination thus annihilating women’s chance for freedom is an absolute contradiction to the meaning of freedom to choose. If I were a woman, I should have the freedom of venturing into porn. Whatever reason it might be, women should have the freedom of choice, and censoring porn would mean limiting choices for women.
Feminists, whether it is Cellestine Ware, Andrea Dworkin, Linda Boreman, Betty Dodson etc all has brought women to what they are today. One can safely say most of the perception of female inferiority is almost non-existent. Women are allowed to express themselves more openly and with more assertion than ever before. To me pornography itself is just a women’s expression of sexuality. However, like television and internet, pornography is getting more and more corrupted to a point it loses its true meaning. Television is inundated with advertisements that results in over consumerism especially in the United States. The internet is full of spams and e-mail scams are rampant. Pornography is now full of immature porn actresses who want to make a quick buck by subjecting herself to degrading sexual acts. Most of them regret their actions and then blame the porn industry for humiliating them. There are porn actresses like Nina Hartley that loves pornography and lives by it. Pornography is like a career. One has to go into a career that they enjoy working with and does not go against your conscience.
Shall pornography is being censored, more complications would occur, making the situation worse than before. Censoring pornography is not as simple as just getting rid of it. One has to analyze the effect of censoring pornography from a social, economic and political perspective. The law of supply and demand is simple; as long as there is demand, there will always be supply. Censoring pornography would only limit the supply, and people would have other ways of getting pornography if they want to. The issue of pornography is complicated and is not easily solved simply by imposing a censorship on it. A moderate approach must be taken to solve the problem, and that is to regulate, monitor and enforce pornography. To avoid Linda Syndrome, porn actresses must sign a document saying that she is willingly participating in the porn industry and that she is fully aware of the consequences and is personally responsible for all of her own actions. Regulations should be reviewed from time to time, eradicating any loopholes to avoid porn actresses being exploited. Child pornography, which is defined as any pornography with actresses under the age of eighteen is strictly prohibited in any form and that is punishable under the federal law. Proper steps must be taken to ensure history does not repeat itself. The Volstead Act, also called the National Prohibition Act was passed on January 16 1920. Volstead Act prohibits the manufacture, sale or transportation of intoxicating liquor in the United States. The effects of the Volstead Act were largely unanticipated. Legitimate liquor business became illegal overnight, and most of the breweries were taken over by the criminal gangs. Many confrontations took place during the period between 1920 to 1933. Confrontations often result in mass murdering, and the gangs that reach to the top became filthy rich.
Enforcement was difficult to uphold as the gangs were so rich that they bribe the enforcement officers. Those that dare to go against them were murdered instantly. The gangs had such strong influence to the point they control the politicians, either with money or by force. With alcohol gaining social acceptance and the violence and intimidation inflicted by the criminal gangs, public support of the Volstead act started waning. By 1933, public opposition towards the Volstead Act has become overwhelming that the congress decided to lift the act, making alcohol legal again. The lesson learnt from this is simple, censoring would not solve the problem, and the problem is only being swept under the rug. The problem is still there, and eventually someone would have to pick up the rug, dust it thoroughly and get rid of the dust once and for all.
Guide to Courting Girls
Well, I think almost all of my readers here are of the female species, I guess this are the tricks that I would play to 'trap' the girl. Ahaha, as for guys, I guess it might be useful for you as long as the opposite sex doesn't know about your strategy.
Anywayz, courting girls has been around since the existence of human beings. It's like an instinct for men to fall for a woman. Usually guys would try to act macho or cool in front of the girls in an attempt to impress them. However, as women are getting smarter and more demanding (don't kill me ladies), we men have to be wiser and to play the game so to speak. There are many strategies that you can employ upon winning the girl over. Here are some the strategies.
Underdog Strategy: This strategy involves the men making themselves vulnerable, heart-broken or being a loser. The key is that the men should make the women sympathize them. For example, I could say how I was hurt by my previous relationship cause she went back to the ex-bf bla bla bla (it's true by the way). And then the women would feel something like "aww you're so poor thing. Maybe I should try to help you, or fix you....." As time goes on, the women would slowly fall for the guy. You might ask does this work? Trust me, I've seen this thing first hand and it does work. Of course this strategy best works on kind-hearted women with a sympathetic heart.
Jerk Strategy: By using this strategy, you must act like a freaking jerk towards the target (the women). The key feelings that you're trying to invoke is that the target would feel that you are such an asshole you. Once you feel that she truly and deeply hate you, you gradually change. Actually you can show that you're vulnerable or that you actually do have a kinder side of you. You could hint to her that you've changed since you know her bla bla bla. That way, the women would feel that she has made a big impact to you and might fall for you. I've never seen this work in real life, but I guess it kinda work.
Mysterious Strategy: Using this strategy involves the men trying not to be too sociable. This works only when the women always come to try and talk to the men. In response, he would give one word answers, act suspiciously towards her, invoking a sense of mystery in which the women would be curious to know more. This works best on nosy women, as she would be so busybody to want to know what's up with that mysterious man. As time goes on, you would indirectly let out some of your personal information. The women would get more and more excited and soon would be attracted to the guy.
Money Strategy: This is self-explanatory, and it's the easiest way to get the women if you're rich. It involves lavish dinners, extravagant gifts, and the men would often drive a flashy car. This works on almost every women especially the gold diggers. I've tried this method before and yes it works. Downside however was that after she realize I'm not as rich as I thought, she then dumped me. Ahahaha
So there you go, all the fishy strategies that we men use. Now that you gals know how does men prey on you all, you better be careful of what we do. Now I need to figure out what strategy should I use upon that crush of mine. Judging by what she does, I think the underdog strategy would work. Ehehehe, till then, love you all
Anywayz, courting girls has been around since the existence of human beings. It's like an instinct for men to fall for a woman. Usually guys would try to act macho or cool in front of the girls in an attempt to impress them. However, as women are getting smarter and more demanding (don't kill me ladies), we men have to be wiser and to play the game so to speak. There are many strategies that you can employ upon winning the girl over. Here are some the strategies.
Underdog Strategy: This strategy involves the men making themselves vulnerable, heart-broken or being a loser. The key is that the men should make the women sympathize them. For example, I could say how I was hurt by my previous relationship cause she went back to the ex-bf bla bla bla (it's true by the way). And then the women would feel something like "aww you're so poor thing. Maybe I should try to help you, or fix you....." As time goes on, the women would slowly fall for the guy. You might ask does this work? Trust me, I've seen this thing first hand and it does work. Of course this strategy best works on kind-hearted women with a sympathetic heart.
Jerk Strategy: By using this strategy, you must act like a freaking jerk towards the target (the women). The key feelings that you're trying to invoke is that the target would feel that you are such an asshole you. Once you feel that she truly and deeply hate you, you gradually change. Actually you can show that you're vulnerable or that you actually do have a kinder side of you. You could hint to her that you've changed since you know her bla bla bla. That way, the women would feel that she has made a big impact to you and might fall for you. I've never seen this work in real life, but I guess it kinda work.
Mysterious Strategy: Using this strategy involves the men trying not to be too sociable. This works only when the women always come to try and talk to the men. In response, he would give one word answers, act suspiciously towards her, invoking a sense of mystery in which the women would be curious to know more. This works best on nosy women, as she would be so busybody to want to know what's up with that mysterious man. As time goes on, you would indirectly let out some of your personal information. The women would get more and more excited and soon would be attracted to the guy.
Money Strategy: This is self-explanatory, and it's the easiest way to get the women if you're rich. It involves lavish dinners, extravagant gifts, and the men would often drive a flashy car. This works on almost every women especially the gold diggers. I've tried this method before and yes it works. Downside however was that after she realize I'm not as rich as I thought, she then dumped me. Ahahaha
So there you go, all the fishy strategies that we men use. Now that you gals know how does men prey on you all, you better be careful of what we do. Now I need to figure out what strategy should I use upon that crush of mine. Judging by what she does, I think the underdog strategy would work. Ehehehe, till then, love you all
Monday, January 14, 2008
The Return of The Ghost?
I have to say class have been quite stressful so far. Actually, it's not too bad but it's just that I have this one class that is ultra stressful and pressurize us by giving a test and handing in an assignment for every class. His excuse for doing so was that he wants us to get the feel of the real world. I'm like OMG, if the real world is like that I might as well shoot myself.
Ok I'm deviating to the main topic here. The point is while I was taking a rest from all the stressful work that has been bestowed upon me, one of my friends called me up. It has been months since I'd any contact with her and the last time I manage to really talk to her was back in late September or early October. Since then she has graduated and moved to Oregon looking for her job. While I was talking to her, she abruptly asked me "Eh, are you over Elsie already-ar?". I replied "erm, should be-qua?"
The conversation continues on, and after we finished talking the thought of whether I'm over Elsie lingered in my mind. I'm still having doubts of whether I'm really over her or not. As now I have moved to a new place, maybe the absence of sight makes me able to not remember her at all. I was thinking maybe I'm not over her because I'm lonely and in need of a partner. Seriously, there is so many possibilities and I'm not sure if I'm either too lonely or had the out of sight, out of mind mentality.
I guess the only way to truly put the past behind me is to bury the hatchet once and for all. Maybe I should talk to her as a normal friend and see if I felt anything. Another thing would be to see if I could bear to see her with her new boyfriend holding hands, making out etc. Ah I'm not sure what to do also. However, maybe it's just all about me thinking too much, and that I doubt myself too much as well.
I think from now on I would have more faith in myself. I shall now officially tell myself that it's really over between Elsie and I. Furthermore, I even have a new crush now which I would be seeing her in a few hours time. Like my sister said "In life you'll realize that certain people, especially partners and friends are replaceable." I guess it's time to get rid of the ghost and to replace her.
Ok I'm deviating to the main topic here. The point is while I was taking a rest from all the stressful work that has been bestowed upon me, one of my friends called me up. It has been months since I'd any contact with her and the last time I manage to really talk to her was back in late September or early October. Since then she has graduated and moved to Oregon looking for her job. While I was talking to her, she abruptly asked me "Eh, are you over Elsie already-ar?". I replied "erm, should be-qua?"
The conversation continues on, and after we finished talking the thought of whether I'm over Elsie lingered in my mind. I'm still having doubts of whether I'm really over her or not. As now I have moved to a new place, maybe the absence of sight makes me able to not remember her at all. I was thinking maybe I'm not over her because I'm lonely and in need of a partner. Seriously, there is so many possibilities and I'm not sure if I'm either too lonely or had the out of sight, out of mind mentality.
I guess the only way to truly put the past behind me is to bury the hatchet once and for all. Maybe I should talk to her as a normal friend and see if I felt anything. Another thing would be to see if I could bear to see her with her new boyfriend holding hands, making out etc. Ah I'm not sure what to do also. However, maybe it's just all about me thinking too much, and that I doubt myself too much as well.
I think from now on I would have more faith in myself. I shall now officially tell myself that it's really over between Elsie and I. Furthermore, I even have a new crush now which I would be seeing her in a few hours time. Like my sister said "In life you'll realize that certain people, especially partners and friends are replaceable." I guess it's time to get rid of the ghost and to replace her.
Friday, January 11, 2008
A Change In Our Life
While there's a sweet innocent-looking girl with a great smile in Religion 1000 class, I am taking a boring Physics 1000 class as well. The class is really big and it's more of an auditorium as it can seat 100+ people. Unlike Religion 1000 class, there's no hot chick to perv at thus it's a very boring class. Again the reason why I'm taking Physics 1000 class is to fulfill my general requirement.
So it was the usual boring stuff and I was yawning away until the lecturer said something in class. "An object have resistances to changes to their motion. Objects at rest remain at rest while objects in motion remain in motion". This got me thinking, aren't we all resistant to changes???
I am the perfect example that is resistant to changes. Believe it or not, just before going to California I didn't feel like going there cause I was used to my new place. Even though I know California is like a billion times better than Kalamazoo, at that point I prefer to stay in Kalamazoo cause I wasn't in the mood for the change in my environment. I eat McDonalds almost everyday ordering the same thing. I'm the epitome of resisting changes. It is a natural occuring that everything is resistant to changes.
So now comes the subequent question, why then our lifes are ever-changing? I hate to know the fact that some things wouldn't last forever. People like stay things as it is. But yet our world is ever-changing. New technologies come in everyday. New cars, buildings, products etc etc.
Maybe I got this wrong, people are always seeking changes in life. My friend is seeking to change his car. He changes car more often than I change my clothings. People seeking different partners. I myself want a total change in my own lifestyle. Hell, actually everyone wants a change in life. But I've always wonder, as we seek changes in life, it is not a natural phenomenom; it is against the laws of nature.
Somehow we're changing too much to the point that we don't sit down and enjoy the moment we're in. As it is against the laws of nature, we feel uneasy, awkward, agitated, unatural. We're living in an artifical state of mind, as we all are only focusing in changes, and indirectly this contribute to the world of upheaval today. Rampant pollutions, outbreak of contagious and ever more dangerous diseases like ebola and AIDS are the symptons that the earth is resisting change.
I'm not sure if you all understand what I'm trying to explain. In short, the law of nature resists changes. And as human strive for changes, the law of nature would resist it through means of trying to get rid of the symptons of change, which in this case is we human beings ourselves.
So it was the usual boring stuff and I was yawning away until the lecturer said something in class. "An object have resistances to changes to their motion. Objects at rest remain at rest while objects in motion remain in motion". This got me thinking, aren't we all resistant to changes???
I am the perfect example that is resistant to changes. Believe it or not, just before going to California I didn't feel like going there cause I was used to my new place. Even though I know California is like a billion times better than Kalamazoo, at that point I prefer to stay in Kalamazoo cause I wasn't in the mood for the change in my environment. I eat McDonalds almost everyday ordering the same thing. I'm the epitome of resisting changes. It is a natural occuring that everything is resistant to changes.
So now comes the subequent question, why then our lifes are ever-changing? I hate to know the fact that some things wouldn't last forever. People like stay things as it is. But yet our world is ever-changing. New technologies come in everyday. New cars, buildings, products etc etc.
Maybe I got this wrong, people are always seeking changes in life. My friend is seeking to change his car. He changes car more often than I change my clothings. People seeking different partners. I myself want a total change in my own lifestyle. Hell, actually everyone wants a change in life. But I've always wonder, as we seek changes in life, it is not a natural phenomenom; it is against the laws of nature.
Somehow we're changing too much to the point that we don't sit down and enjoy the moment we're in. As it is against the laws of nature, we feel uneasy, awkward, agitated, unatural. We're living in an artifical state of mind, as we all are only focusing in changes, and indirectly this contribute to the world of upheaval today. Rampant pollutions, outbreak of contagious and ever more dangerous diseases like ebola and AIDS are the symptons that the earth is resisting change.
I'm not sure if you all understand what I'm trying to explain. In short, the law of nature resists changes. And as human strive for changes, the law of nature would resist it through means of trying to get rid of the symptons of change, which in this case is we human beings ourselves.
A Crush
For those two friends that I told them, I have a crush on this girl. It's kinda stupid actually and is simliar to those silly infactuation that would be over as soon as you know it. To give a brief idea of how I found her, I was taking Religion 1000 class when I first saw her. Yes I know I'm no fan of religions but I took this class because it's supposedly easy to pass.
The first thing that I notice was the way her hair was tied up. You know those that tie into a bun or something like. And then there was the glasses, and yes I admit I have a thing for girls with glasses, don't ask me why. So then that's how she caught my attention. To be honest, Religion 1000 has alot of pretty girls in that class. There's another girl that has crystal blue eyes. Just staring into her sky blue eyes makes you all mesmerized to a point that it can hypnotize you. But anywayz, this lady was the one that most caught my attention.
A little bit of sleuthing around and cyber-stalking and I found out that she is a co-president in this social fraternity. My dear friend suggested that I should join that fraternity in an attempt to get closer to her. However like most of the other crushes that I have, I wouldn't really do anything except I know I have the chance. Yes I lose interest as quick as I gain interest in a person.
I guess it's quite ironic that I have been teasing my friend about her dating a jewish guy. Not that I hate them, it's just quite funny so I just kept on teasing her about it like a million times. Now the tables has been turned, and the girl that I fell for is most likely a jew, judging from her last name and the fact that she is not raised in a christian tradition family. Yes I know, now you all can laugh at me and that I deserve it. Just as I was losing interest, one day I was joking with my friend in class about some stuff and both of us was laughing. While I was laughing I turned the other way and we had eye contact for a while. I guess she thought I was smiling at her when actually I was still laughing, so she gave this sweetest smile I've ever seen. Ok I might exaggerate about the sweetest smile ever, but I nearly melt to the floor and my face is burning red. Oh well, yes I know I'm so naive and stuff like that, but knowing myself I wouldn't pursue any further and move on.
The first thing that I notice was the way her hair was tied up. You know those that tie into a bun or something like. And then there was the glasses, and yes I admit I have a thing for girls with glasses, don't ask me why. So then that's how she caught my attention. To be honest, Religion 1000 has alot of pretty girls in that class. There's another girl that has crystal blue eyes. Just staring into her sky blue eyes makes you all mesmerized to a point that it can hypnotize you. But anywayz, this lady was the one that most caught my attention.
A little bit of sleuthing around and cyber-stalking and I found out that she is a co-president in this social fraternity. My dear friend suggested that I should join that fraternity in an attempt to get closer to her. However like most of the other crushes that I have, I wouldn't really do anything except I know I have the chance. Yes I lose interest as quick as I gain interest in a person.
I guess it's quite ironic that I have been teasing my friend about her dating a jewish guy. Not that I hate them, it's just quite funny so I just kept on teasing her about it like a million times. Now the tables has been turned, and the girl that I fell for is most likely a jew, judging from her last name and the fact that she is not raised in a christian tradition family. Yes I know, now you all can laugh at me and that I deserve it. Just as I was losing interest, one day I was joking with my friend in class about some stuff and both of us was laughing. While I was laughing I turned the other way and we had eye contact for a while. I guess she thought I was smiling at her when actually I was still laughing, so she gave this sweetest smile I've ever seen. Ok I might exaggerate about the sweetest smile ever, but I nearly melt to the floor and my face is burning red. Oh well, yes I know I'm so naive and stuff like that, but knowing myself I wouldn't pursue any further and move on.
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Back from San Diego, back to K-hole-mazoo
I'm back in Kalamazoo after exactly three weeks in San Diego. I'm quite sure many of you would know my public display of disliking Kalamazoo. Actually I don't really dislike the place, it's just that there's nothing much to do here. Many people argue that it is a good thing so as to not have any distractions. However, I don't see a corelation to my improvement of results vs. the level of boringness in the university surroundings.
So it's the same old cycle over again, boring community thus nothing better else to do but to bitch around. I wanna get out of this place and go to Chicago more often but then petrol is too expensive. I have less subjects but then I have lots more things to do as I prepare myself to the harsher environment of the working world.
Surprisingly the weather has been quite warm. In fact at times the temperatures in Kalamazoo is higher than San Diego. Hmmm it is expected to go down in the next few days into freezing temperatures again however. Hopefully it would get warmer and warmer in late Feb or March.
There's nothing much else to say here however. I might not be blogging so often as I have a marketing class that is preparing us into the real world by pressurizing us with lots of assignments (every class one or two assignments) and to give on the spot presentations. Argh, I really hate presentations but I have no choice. Till then, love you all peeps *muax*
So it's the same old cycle over again, boring community thus nothing better else to do but to bitch around. I wanna get out of this place and go to Chicago more often but then petrol is too expensive. I have less subjects but then I have lots more things to do as I prepare myself to the harsher environment of the working world.
Surprisingly the weather has been quite warm. In fact at times the temperatures in Kalamazoo is higher than San Diego. Hmmm it is expected to go down in the next few days into freezing temperatures again however. Hopefully it would get warmer and warmer in late Feb or March.
There's nothing much else to say here however. I might not be blogging so often as I have a marketing class that is preparing us into the real world by pressurizing us with lots of assignments (every class one or two assignments) and to give on the spot presentations. Argh, I really hate presentations but I have no choice. Till then, love you all peeps *muax*
Friday, January 4, 2008
LV is nice......
No, not Louis Vitton you brand conscious freaks, it's Las Vegas. Vegas was not too bad, not too good. In other words, Vegas is ok. I remember the last time I went there I was so awed by all the casinos and stuff like that but second time around I guess the excitement is gone as you know what is expected. Furthermore, I find the place now to be a bit dodgy and stuff. Driving from San Diego to Las Vegas was like around 4 to 5 hours. Coming back, I was driving around 85-90 mph so it was much faster.
This is the famous musical fountain in front of Bellagio hotel. The fountain was 'singing' to the tune of 'Time To Say Goodbye' by some guy and girl. If you see this for the first time you would really find it touching and romantic. Even seeing it second time around it still gives me the chills cause it was quite nice, but mostly cause it was quite cold in Vegas at night. 
Oh did I tell you I ate lunch at Paris? Oh no it's lunch at Paris, Las Vegas. Hahaha, I'm sure people who has went to Las Vegas would know all the hotels and casinos around there.
Hanging around in Vegas can turn out to be a bad thing for you, especially when you're a rich bastard. This car got bricked, which means that its tires were stolen and I'm not sure if the owner knows about it or not. Whatever it is, they are going to have a hard time looking for tires to get back to California. I guess you could strick jackpots not only in casinos. One set of these brand new shoes would cost at least around 3 to 4 thousand dollars.Ok that's all I have to say in Vegas. I have tons of pictures but then showing it all to you would be a hassle and wouldn't give you an incentive to go there. If you need a driver, you can always call me and you just need to buy me an air ticket to your place and I'll drive you there. Oh and there's only like 2 more days before going back to Chicago. Damn uni's starting again, but after this semester I would be set out in the cruel, cold working world. Sigh, I'm still searching for an American wife, anyone? Haha
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
HAPPY NEW YEAR
Happy new year to all my beloved friends!!!!! May 2008 would be a meaningful and joyful year for all of you.
I didn't celebrate new years this time as compared to last year when i was stuck in Chicago in the cold on Navy Pier watching the fireworks. Instead I'm just sitting here on my sister's desk playing counter strike and talking to some of my close friends. Just after new year there was a bunch of fellows that ran around my sisters neighbourhood celebrating the new year. I didn't see them but i heard them celebrating. It was rather funny as I was stoning on the computer and then suddenly 'ting ting ting ting Happy New Year wooooo!!!!! ting ting ting ting'. I remember exactly 5 years ago I was watching fireworks on San Diego bay. I remember back then I was so uncertain about the year that is ahead of me. This year, I'm still uncertain about the year ahead of me, albeit it would be a whole different uncertainty.
In april i would be graduating and would be finally done with school. All those bloody years of education that made my parents a few million dollars poorer would finally come to an end and it's time for me to make all those money back not only for myself but to my parents. However, it's gonna be a rough beginning for me. I'd finally made a decision to do OPT for one year (OPT stands for optional practical training in which you're given like a one year working visa) and then see where it goes from there. Shall the boss of my company loves me and wants to sponsor me, then hallelujah i would get a proper H1 visa to work in the United States. If the boss hates me then I guess I would sabotage his computer with child porn and then return back to Malaysia.
I apologize to some of my friends who keep on asking me to come back to Malaysia, but given the complicated circumstances that I'm in, it is quite difficult for me to come back. Another thing is that I'm quite used to the lifestyle over here. Yes I may comdemn that US people are ignorant bastards that like to waste food and so on but I've become one of the US fat bastards! Haha! Furthermore, with the political upheaval in Malaysia, I rather be working with ignorant US bastards and know through hardwork I would get my reward than to work hard in Malaysia and let those Malay bastards step on my head and reap my reward with their smelly arms stretched out that I could smell their smelly armpits as they've never showered for a million years. Forgive me for my racism but I can tell you that's pretty true about the situation in Malaysia. Furthermore more of my friends are whizzing off to Australia as it is such a breeze to get PRs over there. Now where is my blonde American wife so that I could get my PR? hehe
On a more philosophical note, I read on PostSecret of a postcard written 'I feel that I don't belong anywhere, and I'm ok with it'. Somehow this phrase hits me. Even though I feel comfortable living in US, I'm still an outsider, a foreigner. In Malaysia, I feel at home, but I don't feel comfortable with the system, not just the political system but like how things are done in Malaysia. Furthermore, coming to California is great as I could spend time with my family, but certain events has left me quite dissappointed and they have different priorities in life. This made me feel that I don't belong anywhere. Sure I know I have great friends and a loving family, but things just ain't the same, and the feeling of belongness with them is gone. It's not that I'm happy with it, it's just that I've accepted things the way they are and just make the best out of the situation.
Ok then, I just wanna wish you all Happy New Year again to you all. Have a great year ahead. Love you all and best of luck
I didn't celebrate new years this time as compared to last year when i was stuck in Chicago in the cold on Navy Pier watching the fireworks. Instead I'm just sitting here on my sister's desk playing counter strike and talking to some of my close friends. Just after new year there was a bunch of fellows that ran around my sisters neighbourhood celebrating the new year. I didn't see them but i heard them celebrating. It was rather funny as I was stoning on the computer and then suddenly 'ting ting ting ting Happy New Year wooooo!!!!! ting ting ting ting'. I remember exactly 5 years ago I was watching fireworks on San Diego bay. I remember back then I was so uncertain about the year that is ahead of me. This year, I'm still uncertain about the year ahead of me, albeit it would be a whole different uncertainty.
In april i would be graduating and would be finally done with school. All those bloody years of education that made my parents a few million dollars poorer would finally come to an end and it's time for me to make all those money back not only for myself but to my parents. However, it's gonna be a rough beginning for me. I'd finally made a decision to do OPT for one year (OPT stands for optional practical training in which you're given like a one year working visa) and then see where it goes from there. Shall the boss of my company loves me and wants to sponsor me, then hallelujah i would get a proper H1 visa to work in the United States. If the boss hates me then I guess I would sabotage his computer with child porn and then return back to Malaysia.
I apologize to some of my friends who keep on asking me to come back to Malaysia, but given the complicated circumstances that I'm in, it is quite difficult for me to come back. Another thing is that I'm quite used to the lifestyle over here. Yes I may comdemn that US people are ignorant bastards that like to waste food and so on but I've become one of the US fat bastards! Haha! Furthermore, with the political upheaval in Malaysia, I rather be working with ignorant US bastards and know through hardwork I would get my reward than to work hard in Malaysia and let those Malay bastards step on my head and reap my reward with their smelly arms stretched out that I could smell their smelly armpits as they've never showered for a million years. Forgive me for my racism but I can tell you that's pretty true about the situation in Malaysia. Furthermore more of my friends are whizzing off to Australia as it is such a breeze to get PRs over there. Now where is my blonde American wife so that I could get my PR? hehe
On a more philosophical note, I read on PostSecret of a postcard written 'I feel that I don't belong anywhere, and I'm ok with it'. Somehow this phrase hits me. Even though I feel comfortable living in US, I'm still an outsider, a foreigner. In Malaysia, I feel at home, but I don't feel comfortable with the system, not just the political system but like how things are done in Malaysia. Furthermore, coming to California is great as I could spend time with my family, but certain events has left me quite dissappointed and they have different priorities in life. This made me feel that I don't belong anywhere. Sure I know I have great friends and a loving family, but things just ain't the same, and the feeling of belongness with them is gone. It's not that I'm happy with it, it's just that I've accepted things the way they are and just make the best out of the situation.
Ok then, I just wanna wish you all Happy New Year again to you all. Have a great year ahead. Love you all and best of luck
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